“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”
― C.G. Jung
Even the most attractive, happiest,and most confident of people get that feeling sometimes. The gut wrenching feeling in the pit of your stomach when you look in the mirror. the anxiety when stepping on the scale. the butterflies when taking a drastic risk. the voices in your head that tell you that you are undeserving, that you are worthless, that you aren't good enough.
well listen up people! because today i'm giving you ten things to remember when you get one of those feelings. and if you take each step in and try and to apply them to yourselves, maybe, just maybe! they'll start to work.
1. There is nothing wrong with you. You may feel like sometimes the good outweighs the bad, but trust me, that is so far from the truth. You are so one of a kind and without you, the world really wouldn't be the same! Everybody doubts themselves and everybody has those days where they feel lousy about everything in every aspect of their life. Just because you experience those days, doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. You are going to have bad days, actually, you're going to have A LOT of bad days. But with some bad, there is always some good! And you shouldn't blame yourself for the things you cannot change. You shouldn't blame yourself if someone doesn't see the good in you because that's their problem. Tons and tons of people think you're really great, you'd be surprised.
2. You aren't perfect, you're human. You will make some mistakes. You might make some HUGE mistakes. But you know what? I encourage mistakes because in the end, they turn into lessons. And some of those mistakes might turn out to be beautiful ones. I know the feeling when you try and try and try to be as perfect as possible, but give it up sista, because it's pointless! NO ONE is perfect. No one is even close. We are all terribly flawed in some sort of way, some people are just really good at faking it. So just because you may not be the brightest rose in the garden, doesn't mean you aren't beautiful in your own way. You may not be perfect, but you ARE worth it.
3. Comparing yourselves to others is pointless. You are probably never going to be Selena Gomez or Ariana Grande. You'll probably never sing like Beyonce or have hair like Taylor Swift. You may never look like the girls in the magazines and even though that kills you, you have to accept it. There can only be ONE of everybody, which means there can only be one of you! Comparing yourself to someone you will never be makes you fail to recognize the fact that some people want to be like YOU! And it's so true! Appreciate who you are because some of us would kill to be just like you. You would be surprised how many people are looking you like dang, I wish I could be her. I wish I could have a life like hers. So don't take advantage of what some people would do anything to just walk in your shoes for a day.
4. The voice in your head is wrong. We are own our worst enemy and that's the dang truth. But it is time to change the voice in your head because the voice that is there now is spitting out lies, lies that you're letting yourself believe. Don't wake up telling yourself that it's going to be a bad day. Don't let yourself think that you look hideous when you look in the mirror. Don't freak yourself out while taking a big test, calling yourself stupid and doubting your intelligence. Trust me! The only thing it does is make things worse! Although it's quite easy to convince ourselves that the voices are true, they aren't!
5. Let go of everything that's weighing you down. How do you expect to fly with all that extra baggage keeping you on the ground? Negativity and past hardships should stay in the past. Better yet, they should better you! They shouldn't control your life. Learn from them, let them change you in a positive way, and LET THEM GO. Do not make them a part of you that's going to prevent you from being happy. It is time to let them all go and to once and for all, be free.
6. You have made it this far, and if that's not an accomplishment I don't know what is. Just think of all the times you wanted to give up, of all the times you were so done with the continuous curve balls life seemed to be throwing at you. Think of all those times you didn't want to get out bed in the morning, but did anyway. That's beautiful. You're fighting, and you still are, and you are doing just fine.
7. You are in control of your own happiness. It's never to late to change who you want to be. If you don't like something in your life, get rid of it. Pretty simple.
8. Everybody feels this way sometimes. You are never alone and don't forget it.
9. Time heals all wounds. Absolutely everything is temporary. So that feeling you're feeling right now? It will get better. You'll see.
10. You are worth it all. You are worth the fight, you are worth the time, you are worth the breath and you are worth this life. You are here for a reason and you are good enough. Even if you feel like you aren't good enough to others, it's time to say screw them and work on being good enough for yourself. One day, you'll see what others see and you will be happy. You are worth it all, never forget that.
we all have those days where all we wanna do is cry and feel bad for ourselves, and on those days, come read this post. You are good enough and one day you will realize it. until then, shine bright reader. xoxo, b.
